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Let Go of What No Longer Serves You.

When I was 13 my mom discovered I had some back issues and we went to the doctors to get it checked out. After x-rays we found out that I had scoliosis (like so many others) and Scheuermann's disease. Sounds a lot scarier than it is. Scheuermann's disease is a curvature in the vertebrae that can develop in childhood, mine is at the top of my back which makes it hard to stand or sit up really straight. This information stayed with me and always made me very self-conscious of my posture. 

 About 2 months ago I was at an expo and went to a chiropractor booth where they do a test on your spine and posture. I explained to the chiro what was wrong with my back and he didn't believe that I had Scheuermann's disease, he suggested I go for x-rays again as he didn't see my curve as anything beyond an 'average' posture. He couldn't seem to see the hunch that I had been carrying with me for almost 20 years! I couldn't believe it. I then researched it a little and realized that although the condition can't be undone, when you stop growing it will not get worse. 

 For 20 years I was carrying this little burden with me, a worry that part of me will always be 'deformed', I will live with a hunch back and it will only get worse haha. All it took was for one person to tell me a different story and my entire belief system changed - this weight I'd been carrying on my shoulders (literally) lifted. How crazy? Not once did I question it in 20 years or get a second opinion. I simply accepted one persons diagnosis as my truth. 
It made me think about how many other belief systems have been put into place by just one person telling us something that we accept as the truth? A teacher telling us we will fail? A parent saying we aren't good enough, organized enough, pretty enough, smart enough? If you had to look back into your childhood, what one thing has followed you all these years that could actually be completely debunked if it was never said to you? By accepting it as our truth we give power to it and the person who delivered it to us. By accepting it we immediately use it as an excuse to not become better, to change or to release the hold it has on us. 

 My brother was once told that he was dyslexic, I'm not saying that he isn't, but what if he wasn't told that, what if instead the teacher put more time and effort into his learning, would that change the outcome of his future? Would that change his mind about who he is. 
How crazy is it that we accept these labels that were put onto us when we weren't old enough to distinguish the difference and we carry them for decades into our future. 
How can you change your future right now by taking one 'truth' about yourself and questioning it? And then releasing it as someone else's
'truth'?

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