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Are your priorities filling your cup?

I was chatting to a friend the other day and she asked me how I get to walk on the beach or do yoga all the time. She said she can barely sit down with a cup of tea let alone go for a long walk and it made her feel frustrated. It really got me thinking about the difference between our two lives.  Her house is always beautiful and spotless, all the housework is done, dinner cooked every night and children home-schooled at the moment. She also is committed to making her business a priority in this trying time which keeps their family afloat.  My house is always messy! Put 2 dogs and a 3 year old together and see what happens, so I often do the bare minimum to tidy it up, I leave the washing until its an absolute must do and share the load of cooking with my husband. It made me realize how different our priorities are and how we so often judge our lives based on someone else's priorities.   My priority every day is to either go for a walk or do yoga, because if I don't it
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What Happens When We Detach From the Outcome?

I don't know about you but I find this whole 'detaching from the outcome' thing really really challenging! Being the personality type who likes to know everything is in my control makes it pretty hard to hand over big wishes to the Big U! The bigger the wishes, the harder I find it. But then, whenever I do eventually let go and detach from the outcome it always, always manifests! It is a practice I work on every single day of my life, because it just doesn't come naturally to me, but I know the more I do it the easier it will be.  Whenever I've wanted something to happen, I get attached to it, and try to keep it within my control up to the point that it actually starts to create a bit of stress and anxiety, and at that point I realize what I'm doing and how much I don't enjoy that feeling, and that sparks me into handing the stress and control part over to the Universe.  So recently I was reminded of the power of this little gift again. When my husband a

Honor the Waves

I was in yoga class on Saturday - that's normally where I receive all my beautiful messages of wisdom. Towards the end of the class the teacher said that it is so important to honor the waves within us. Honor the waves of emotion, of change. I'm not sure about you but I often judge my low energy/negative feelings. I am naturally a positive person, so when I am feeling a bit low I can easily jump into a place a of judgement, wondering why I am feeling like that, why I'm not inspired and motivated to live my best life. But we can't be in a high energy all day every day. We can consistently be happier when we practice tools to get us there, like meditation, appreciation, exercise. But it is completely normal to have ups and downs. It is completely normal to feel a range of different emotions all the time. Especially as women, we experience different levels of hormones all the time which can have a huge effect on our emotions and mental well-being. What if we actually

The Key to Happiness is Letting Go of Perfection

The other day I was struggling with some business mental blocks and giving myself some negative self-talk about why my business wasn't quite where I wanted it to be. It's funny how we all have a trigger, mine is money. If I start to feel stressed about money it triggers me and negative self talk starts to spiral, so I have to stop myself.  After having a chat with my mom, always so wise, she said to me "Robyn, you don't have to be an A student in everything". I started to really think about my life and realized that I've always been the type of person who strives to be great in every area of my life. In school I tried my hardest to get good marks, although not always A's haha. This trait has followed me into motherhood, career life and marriage. It's definitely not a bad trait as it means people like me are often working to make life the best it can be, however it can also lead to burn out or disappointment when we give all our energy to everything b

Let Go of What No Longer Serves You.

When I was 13 my mom discovered I had some back issues and we went to the doctors to get it checked out. After x-rays we found out that I had scoliosis (like so many others) and Scheuermann's disease. Sounds a lot scarier than it is. Scheuermann's disease is a curvature in the vertebrae that can develop in childhood, mine is at the top of my back which makes it hard to stand or sit up really straight. This information stayed with me and always made me very self-conscious of my posture.  About 2 months ago I was at an expo and went to a chiropractor booth where they do a test on your spine and posture. I explained to the chiro what was wrong with my back and he didn't believe that I had Scheuermann's disease, he suggested I go for x-rays again as he didn't see my curve as anything beyond an 'average' posture. He couldn't seem to see the hunch that I had been carrying with me for almost 20 years! I couldn't believe it. I then researched it a little a

Is it time to stop comparing?

Yesterday I went for an early morning walk up our hills nearby. Its about 40 minutes up and 20 minutes down. One of my absolute favourite things to do as I love arriving at my favourite view point and taking 10 minutes to sit by myself and visualize what I want in life.  On my way up a man ran past me and I wondered to myself how people get so fit that they can run up and down in a matter of minutes. I automatically thought I'd probably never be that fit, however as I took over an older lady I felt a bit better about myself - so strange, comparing myself and my fitness level to two complete strangers of very different ages and fitness stages.  It made me realize how easy it is to unconsciously compare ourselves to others in many different ways. It made me reflect on how we do this in life. For some people, life is about getting to the top as quick as they possibly can. They don't stop to look at the view, they don't even stop when they get to the top but instead continu

A Place to Surrender

Today in my yin yoga class as we started our class lying on our backs, the teacher said "this is your place to surrender". She then asked us to set a sankalpa/intention for the class and a thought popped into my head - "I am me".  Although I should be focused on my breath during my class, of course as usual, my mind often wonders. This evening I started thinking about how when I come to my yoga mat, it truly is a place to surrender - to surrender everything, all of my titles I get to leave at the door and I can walk onto my mat and JUST BE ME!  How often do we get to do that?  While I lay on my mat I realized just how much I get to surrender for an hour. I get to surrender being a mom, a wife, a friend, a sister, a daughter. I get to surrender being a teacher, a business owner, a fitness instructor. I get to surrender being too skinny, too sarcastic, too active or too lazy. I get to surrender all of my own judgements of myself as well as all of the expectations o